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June 13, 2011



Your mom sounds like an amazing woman. No wonder you miss her so much.


Cancer sucks. I am so sorry that your mom was taken from you.


I have many words but none that would really help. I wrote a bunch of them and deleted them again, and now I will just say - I am still so sorry. Your time with her was cut off way too soon.


Oh, Linda. I would have guessed it had only been three years or so. Somehow in my mind, the girls were not so little when she died. You have been robbed. I wish there was something kind and gentle I could say to help you, but it is a sad terrible thing that cannot be fixed.

I love that you are recording memories of your mom here for your daughters to read; these notes will be wonderful springboards for them to ask you questions about her and give you opportunities to share more of who she was.


I am so sorry for your loss. She sounds like a pretty amazing lady. I'll be thinking about you today.


I'm so sorry. Moms are so amazing and important and I wish she was still here to be with you and your family.


i cannot believe it has been five years- doesnt seem nearly that long. i dont know what else to say besides im so, so, so sorry.


I'm so sorry. She sounds like an amazing lady and I love reading what you have to write about her.


Wish I had words that would ease your pain. Losing someone is never easy no matter how long it has been. Thinking about you!


I'm so sorry for your loss. My mother lost her mother (my grandmother) when I was in utero. She had stomach cancer and my mom still tears up 33 years later when she talks about how her mother felt me kicking right before she passed.
Not sure why I'm sharing that except to say that I've seen how my own mother's loss has affected her and it can't be easy. Sending good thoughts your way.


*I* still think about your electric frying pan post and all I did was read it. Thanks for giving me some perspective and for sharing your journey online!


I lost my mom a little over two years ago. She would have been 60 this year. I completely understand. I keep waiting for it to get easier, but I am thinking it never will.

Lisa Tgaylor

Oh Linda, I am so sorry for your loss. She was an amazing person, such a sweet disposition, so caring and friendly to me. When we cleaned out her house you gave me her vegetable chopper... every time I use it I think about where it came from, so please know that her presence is not forgotten. And every time we sing the song "Blessed Be Your Name", I tear up and pray for you (I'm fairly certain that you quoted that song years ago on your blog, saying that it was so hard to sing those words... if I'm wrong in that, well, maybe I just imagined that it would be hard for you to sing the words "you give and take away".. either way, that song reminds me to pray for you and the hurt you have). Anyway, I'm sure there is nothing anyone can say that will help ease your pain... her premature death sucks, and you have every right to feel robbed. Hugs.


I am so incredibly sad for you. My SIL who is 57 was recently diagnosed with stage 4 melanoma. There is nothing the doctors can do for her. She is in South Africa, and I am here.

I have 3 nieces, two in their 30's and one 28. The youngest is getting married in 3 weeks in the hopes that her mom would be able to see her in her wedding gown. She moved the wedding up from February 2012 to now. My brother is by her side with care and love that is amazing to see.

I don't really know why I'm telling you all of this - I guess to sympathize and perhaps to tell you that I can somewhat understand your pain. I cannot imagine my SIL not being here. I have known her since I was 4 years old.

Life is hard and cancer sucks!



I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. I have been reading you since before you had the girls, while you were still on iparenting. I love your writing and your honesty. I can't believe your mom has been gone that long. I am so sorry she is not with you and your beautiful family.

Sarah in Ottawa

Oh honey. I said this on Twitter but I am so, so sorry. It's just so senseless and awful.
I remember when she died - didn't you guys have to cancel a vacation? I can't believe that it has been 5 years already. (I can't believe that I've been reading your amazing blog for well over that!).

If I haven't said it before - your candor about your grief has been so helpful. A beloved Aunt of mine (only 47) became terminally ill around the time your Mom entered the last stages of her illness and your writing helped me process my feelings. Thank you.


I've been a follower/lurker/return read for these years (friend of CaraH's, previously known online as "Bec") and I well remember this anniversary and the past years and the struggle.

I think of you you so often, and your mother, and treasure the closeness you had with her. Thank you for always being so open to share your grief. Much love!


I'm so sorry Linda, your time with her was too short. I love the way you write about her and the honesty you articulate in your writing will be a treasured gift for your girls.


What everyone else has said. Your honest and beautiful writing about the loss of your mom has helped me be more sympathetic to my husband when he lost his and to know that even if he wasn't talking about it, there was a lot going on beneath the surface. He's said one of the hardest things is our son developing and growing...that was the kind of stuff he'd call his mom about when our daughter did it and now she's not here to tell.

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